I’ve been thinking lately about failure, and how I let it be more than it should be in my life. Failure is never fun, and there’s always a reason behind it when I don’t accomplish something, but at some point I have to move on from it.
The moving on part is where I have trouble. It’s so easy for me to stay stuck in it. All I see is how I messed up instead of how I can learn from it.
So I’m going to ask you – how do you deal with failure? Do you have any tips for me?
Failure
For me, success and failure is not something that is relevant. The reasoning is that if I succeeded in my task, I would look for other adventures to venture into. If I fail, it proves that I haven’t fully master the task at hand, therefore there is also adventure in that learning process.
What is relevant is the task itself. For instance, I don’t diet because of health reasons or to look good etc, I do it because by duty I am bounded to take care of myself. In this sense, there is no true “failure” because there is only duty.
If anything is done for reasons that are impure, such as losing weight to look good, there will be quantitative measures to measure results, thus making you feel like either you succeeded or you failed.
Using the example above, it also explains why people are bulimic or anorexic. Because losing weight is suppose to look good, and I’ve lost some weight but still don’t look good, I am compelled to feel like I’ve failed and therefore strive to lose more weight to attain “success”.
These are my two cents anyway, hope it helps!